The love of your life just proposed, and the wedding bells are ringing in your ears! Before you get too into planning out all the small details of your wedding you have to take a breath and remember to set yourself up for success. There are four key things as a couple that you should sit down and prepare before going into full wedding planning mode. Below we will highlight these steps to help keep you and your fiancé on track to getting the wedding of your dreams with as few missteps as possible!
The first thing you are going to want to do is pick a date. I know this may sound odd to remind someone of, but it can be overlooked in small areas. The date is going to be the most important thing when talking to potential vendors as you begin the planning process. Going into meetings with your potential venue is going to go much smoother if you have a set plan of what days or days you may need. It can eliminate the stress of falling in love with a location and having to leave it behind or change your dream day. Setting your date first can help lead you into the next step as well, picking a style or theme.
Your style or theme of the wedding is something that represents you both as a couple. It’s the little details in the center pieces to the colors you may choose and even the music that is played. Picking your theme can be difficult but it is a great bonding activity to help include your fiancé in the planning. If you both agree that you want to be married in the fall then you can use that to push into a theme of deep maroons and browns. If you have your heart set on a spring wedding then your theme and colors will lean more towards pastels or even blues. A theme can be a broad or a specific topic. It can be as easy knowing you want certain colors or as in depth as knowing you want a Great Gatsby extravaganza! Once the date and theme are selected the next step is the guests!
To have success down the road during the finalization process, your best bet is to start by putting together a preliminary guest list. First start by compiling a list of family that you want to attend, next move on to the wedding party and friends. These are people that you either know or are considering to have be in your wedding or would be important to attend. As much as this next list isn’t the most fun it is best to then list those that it would be the “right thing to do” to invite. Family members that your parents would want there, or maybe cousins that invited you to their big day! After this list is assembled you can get a rough count of who you are thinking you would like to attend. This list doesn’t have to be anywhere near a final count, you don’t even have to invite everyone on the list it’s just a rough draft. This can be very helpful as you continue on planning so you will know the size of venue you will need, the ability of potential caterers and even if you will want one or two photographers! Lastly, all of the above options will have you set to talk about the elephant in the room. Your budget.
The budget of the wedding can be the most stressful part, but it doesn’t have to be! If you and your fiancé sit down before planning and work out a definite budget or even a solid range this can eliminate some of the intense stress of the day. A good place to start would be to find out who would be writing the checks for your big day. Is it you, Your parents, your partner’s parents, or an outside source? This will help to narrow done the money you will be working with. If you know that you and your fiancé are paying for your big day, and then discuss what you want to keep it under. If you both know that $10,000 is your cap it can make browsing venues, a dress and vendors a walk in the park! Your budget will play a part in all areas of the wedding and if you go in with a strong plan there is little place for error and heartbreak!
All in all, wedding planning can be both the best experience of your lives and a bit stressful. If you prepare yourself the best you can, with a list, budget, style and the perfect date to celebrate that 50th Anniversary, there is nothing that can stop you!